Millennial Dating: A Stoic Approach

You have been texting this girl for a few days, and think you have a shot. Everyday there is a bit of internal torment, “how should I pose this question?…maybe I shouldn’t say this”. You are spending too much time figuring out how to properly respond to each text. Finally after a week, maybe two, things start to fizzle out. You are not sure why, but what are your next steps? Take a stoic approach.

First, leave your desperation at the door. As a guy, I have been there: you see the most beautiful girl “ever”, and when you start talking to her, or you are savvy enough to get her number, you get too involved. Maybe she is stuck in your head all day, your texts are coming off too strong, but you can’t help it. In this case, step back, realize you are getting over involved, and remember you do not need her. Some great advice from Seneca is that you should approach friendship and companionship, not out of desperation or need, but from a place of enrichment. You do not need this girl to like you or date you, she is someone you want to date because you think it would be fulfilling, maybe even meaningful, but not out of necessity. Remember, you do not need her!

Next, deal with the consequences and move on. Always take a swing when your intuition tells you, but be deal with results as they are out of your control. If the girl doesn’t want to go out with you, but she is the “girl of your dreams”, you have to deal with it. It is okay if you need to shed a tear and feel temporarily depressed after rejection. You cannot control some of these automatic emotional responses. However, you cannot let yourself stay in those initial emotional states. Let the sadness in, let in the disappointment, and use it as energy to drive you towards your next goal. You can achieve this by comparing you to your old self. When you take social risks and ask girls out, remember that an earlier you might not have taken those risks. Look at the positive aspects of your interaction that demonstrate your improvement, then try to learn from the negative aspects.

Remember that sometimes a woman is just not into. There doesn’t always need to be complex mental math about why a prospect didn’t work out. Sometimes timing, situations, and preferences are not in your favor, that’s okay, just keep trying and don’t over think the failures.

Teaching English Online: Be Patient

You started your online teaching business, but success is not happening as fast as you thought, what should you do? Sometimes you have to wait. There are times when you have taken the necessary steps to progress but you must allow time for external factors to play a role . In these situations it’s best to employ patience. Things may work out, but you must give them the opportunity to do so.

Many people believe that once they get accepted onto a platform, whether it is a freelance platform, or a more structured company, their online career will immediately take off. Some people believe they should instantly be receiving 5 star reviews from all their customers, and a heavily booked schedule for as long as can be planned out. Unfortunately, this is not the reality

In order to become a successful online teacher on any platform, patience is absolutely a requirement. You will need patience because customers will be hesitant to book you with little or no reputation, this means you will likely be teaching few classes for the first few months on any plat form, it could literally be 0 – 1 class a week for the first few weeks or months

In order to become a successful online teacher on any platform, patience is absolutely a requirement. First you will need patience because customers will be hesitant to book you as you lack a reputation, this means that you will be teaching few classes likely for the first few months on any plat form, it could literally be 0 – 1 class a week for the first few weeks or months.

You must employ patience for yourself to improve. As you begin to teach online, you are going to have many good and bad days. Sometimes your energy levels will be fantastic, and your teaching style will work with your students, other times it will be difficult to connect with your students and provide them with the best strategies. However, when you feel those bad days occur, you have to patient with your self, review what you are doing and figure out how to improve. This process takes time, it can only be achieved through putting in work over a time.

The last tip for patience is about stamina. When teaching online as a full time business, it takes time to become accustomed to teaching long enough to make good money. Depending on how much you are paid on various platforms, you will likely want to teach between 8-10 hours a day to make a living. While these hours of work are not out of the norm for society, sometimes you will find yourself teaching for 9 – 10 hours with no more than a 2- 5 minute break between each class. This can be very difficult to adjust to. You must build up your ability to work for long periods of time continuously. Once again, I implore you to employ patience. Give yourself time to slowly adjust to incremental increases in teaching time until you can handle a 9 + hour push of teaching to meet your financial goals.